Are you worried that your spouse may be cheating on you? Since one study reported that 53% of women and 59% of men admitted cheating on their spouses, it's not at all unreasonable to be concerned. The question is do you have any reason to be concerned? What are some of the signs of a cheating spouse?
1) He/she shows a sudden interest in a different type of music. What are the chances that a lifelong country music fan is going to suddenly start listening to hip-hop or classical music? Close to zero, I'd say.
2) Your spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in your presence. They're caught in the position of either betraying a co-worker, or being blamed later if you find out that they knew what was going on and didn't tell you. No wonder they're uncomfortable.
3) He/she has a sudden preoccupation with his or her appearance. When are males and females most preoccupied with their appearance? When they're trying to attract a mate or sexual partner, right?
4) Your spouse spends an excessive amount of time on the computer when you are asleep. Of course, how would you know? You're asleep.
5) The amount of money being deposited into your checking account drops off. Cheating can be expensive, especially for men, but even women need some new clothes and trips to the salon to carry on an affair with style. Unless your spouse just got fired or laid off, that missing money is being spent on something.
6) You find items of intimate apparel that you did not give your spouse. Only intimate partners give intimate apparel, and, if it wasn't you, it must be someone else.
7) Your spouse seems less comfortable around you and is "touchy." Whether because of a guilty conscience or a misplaced loyalty to their new "sweetie," cheating spouses often become uncomfortable around the spouse they're cheating on.
8) You get calls where the caller hangs up when he or she hears your voice. It could be a wrong number, but, if it happens again and again...
9) He/she has a definite change in attitude towards everyone in the home. Everyone is a potential snitch, so he/she has to be guarded with all family members. Plus, your cheating spouse may be thinking about the possibility of a new home, which could cause a change in attitude towards the old one.
10) Your spouse uses a low voice or whisper on the phone or hangs up quickly. Your spouse might be planning a surprise birthday party for you, but, if not, what is your spouse trying to hide?
11) He/she begins to delete all incoming phone calls from the caller ID. Everyone knows about reverse lookup by now.
12) Your spouse deletes all incoming e-mails when they used to accumulate. It's sort of creepy to read other people's e-mail, but, if your spouse didn't care about it before, why the sudden change?
13) He/she picks fights in order to stomp out of the house. This has the double benefit of not only getting cheating spouses out of the house, but they also get to justify their cheating to themselves because you're a bastard/bitch.
If your spouse only shows one of the signs, you may have nothing to worry about, but it's never just one, is it? If your spouse is doing any one of these things, he/she is probably doing several, which brings up the big question: what do you do next? Do you confront, investigate, or ignore? The choice you make will change your life.
About the Author
Jennifer Lawless writes on various subjects, including What Are the Signs of a Cheating Spouse. To find out the single biggest mistake you can make when you think your spouse is having an affair, visit her website Astonishing Discoveries.
